COUNTLESS LOSSES

When we talk about traffic accidents, a second can change our lives forever. A second that will mark not only the person who suffers the accident, but also the people around them.

When we talk about traffic accidents, a second can change our lives forever. A second that will mark not only the person who suffers the accident, but also the people around them.

The incident marks a before and after, from which innumerable losses are added. Loss of loved ones, health, projects, etc. generating an earthquake in the lives of those affected that shakes many of the beliefs that were taken for granted.

Added to the pain is a long and cumbersome legal process that accentuates the suffering even more, and can lead to a prolonged grief disorder that can last for years and often stalls in the acceptance stage.

“You have to accept.”

How many times do we hear those words and how rarely do we get into them…

Yes, there is no choice but to accept the harsh reality of what happened. But accepting also implies admitting that we are not in control, that life has no logic, that the protections we took for granted do not always work, that there is no justice, that we live in an immature society that does not care about the suffering of others and a long etcetera. In short, that nothing is going to be the same as before and that on many occasions we are not going to be able to rely on the same values ​​that previously gave meaning to our lives.

The building collapsed and needs to be rebuilt.

From P(A)T we attest that it can and can even be an opportunity to build a new house and distribute it and furnish it in another way and, above all, lay the foundations well. Another day we will talk about it.

But we must not lose sight of the immense initial void faced by those affected by traffic accidents and the innumerable losses that they imply. That’s why, says psychologist Yolanda Domenech, if you have a person who is going through a moment like this close by, don’t talk about acceptance, sit next to her and breathe next to her to help her come back to life.